Friday, May 16, 2008
Spoiled?
I often hear "she/he's spoiled" when a baby just wants to be held and I even said that last night myself. I don't understand how you can spoil a baby when if he/she cries you go pick him up? If you don't, isn't that neglect? I understand not picking them up right away at their first peep, but that rarely happens anyway unless you're in a public place and not sure if he/she will start screaming their head off. Do all you other mothers feel that you can spoil a baby? Is it really spoiling them? I read in a book just recently that you can't and I'll go by that book. Just a thought for the day.
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I'm with you on that one! I think it's one of those things that has changed over the years as research has been done. Kinda like how you put a baby to sleep. It used to be on the stomach, then the side, now it's the back. I think "spoiled" is a term you can probably give to an older child..but not a baby!
I don't feel guilty picking my little big-guy up! Of course much of the time he has to cry a while before I get around to picking him up b/c I'm trying to get this-that & the other thing done anyway!! However, it seemed to me that when I was picking Cal up at night he simply got used to it - so instead of self soothing he expected us to come get him. Now we don't pick him up and night unless it's catestrophic. :)
Don't you remember how I was, Beth? I was always rocking the kids when they were babies. I think there were days when I didn't leave our rocker/recliner much, & I loved it! I gotta say I've never regretted it either! They grow up & you don't get those chances again. I say, if you enjoy holding your baby, do it all you want!!
Go with your instinct. Every book/person will tell you something different. I held my babies a lot and rocked everyone of them to sleep until they didn't want me to rock them anymore. I still rock my three year old and 18 month old. I'd rock my 5 year old if he'd let me! Like Kristi said..someday they won't want to rock or be held and you can't get those moments back!
I believe you cannot spoil a baby or infant or even a toddler for that matter. Maybe once they have hit 3 years old you may need to watch out for spoiling. I say rock them, hug them, hold them and love them all you want because they soon won't let you!!!! Mike might say different but what do men know anyways.
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